My wife came home the other day to find a heap of napkins, aprons, towels, placemats, and seasonal decorative towels placed in a heap in the counter. She asked, with the wisdom that comes from years of living with me, what was wrong with them.
Several things, I explained. There are five aprons. You use one a year. Let’s say you have someone in to help, and Daughter is home from college and helping as well. Unlikely, but possible. That means two superfluous aprons.
She is not entirely unaccustomed to hearing things like “superfluous aprons” from me.
I explained that the seasonal towels, which serve no purpose, and are draped on the oven handle, are old and boring. For example: I hate this one.
“You bought that one," she said.
Maybe. Point is, I hate it now, and if we don’t get rid of it, it will sit in the drawer forever, and some day someone will have to clean out the house and they’ll come across mounds and mounds of rectangular fabric that was obviously never used -
“But that’s in use, right now.”
Yes yes but it’s not the most salient example of what I’m talking about. Forget about it for a second. Let us set aside the pumpkin towel. Point is, there’s nothing as sad or pathetic or maddening as coming across all those linens and tablecloths and things that were too good to ever be used. If we don’t use it, it’s going out.
“You are turning into Marie Kondo.”
Hah! She’s a lightweight. Everything goes. Everything is going out except for two of everything.
(Wife, perhaps considering her shoe shelf: Raised eyebrow)
I am haunted by all the unused old people stuff in my Dad’s house. It just gnaws at me. There was something so sad about it. There was something that said the lives in this house had just wound down and stopped at some point, years before the actual technical stopping. It’s why I have two suits, one drawer with 10 t-shirts, and a selection of sweaters that are confined to what I wear, not what I might. Granted, I have 25 shirts, but that’s because I like color. I know I have 2 shirts because I have 25 hangars, and if one new shirt comes in another is sent off to Goodwill.
My dad had about ten suits, a tottering mound of sweaters, so many slacks. He wasn’t a hoarder, and everything was hung up and neatly stacked, but I could sense the way he’d held on to some things just because. Same with the kitchen cabinets. By no means pack-ratty, but lots of things for parties that wouldn’t ever happen. Colorful glassware they’d picked up along the way, used maybe 10 years ago, probably longer: couldn’t bear to toss it, or never saw the need, or just didn't have a moment when he thought "those could go."
I understand. I have glassware to which I am attached, for ridiculous reasons. I have Frosty Root Beer mug with the brand's logo, no doubt bought because I thought "summer is coming and I will make root beer float for Daughter and it will be sanctified by this cool vintage logo and life will be perfect."
It has to go. We have inherited a set of nice wine glasses that never get used because there are the Perfectly Good Wine Glasses that come out for parties, and you wouldn’t want to break the nice ones.
So many vases! Do we need 10 vases? We do not need ten vases. Elton John is not coming to stay.
In short: out. OUT OUT OUT. Keep what we use, what we occasionally use, and a few things that we might use. Everything else, OUT.
Multiply by every household in America, and the quantity of stuff boggles the brainpan.
Oh, and the DVDs on the shelf downstairs? Same. I found DVDs downstairs in the media room, where I don’t think anyone had sat and enjoyed a TV show in ten years. Again: life, stopped. I think of the shelf downstairs with the Disney Treasures series all lined up, and it has the same stopped-time impression. Out!
No, wait, google . . . eBay . . . holy crap, people want $30 for those?
No. OUT. Well, maybe save one, for Daughter, if she remembers how she watched these and loved the early Mickeys and Plutos and Silly Symphonies. I did too. I ripped them all, including the menus, because the sound of the menu music playing in a loop because she’d fallen asleep, or left the basement without turning it off - a familiar old melody that brings back a certain time, and I’m the only one who remembers it.
But that’s GONE and it’s not coming back, and -
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Maybe it all comes back eventually.
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Still throwing away the towel, though.
(NARRATOR: He did not, in the end, throw away the towel)
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